Monday, January 31, 2011

SiF #261 - When Good Orgies Go Bad

SiF gets a letter from a listener who's recently experienced her first group sex play and learned later that her husband snuck in a little PiV action while she was rounding up a double-ended dildo in the other room. She had a great time but is hurt by the fact that he broke the rules.

She writes,

Hey Kidder--long time no talk :) I hope you and Jade are doing well, and I've been missing our chats. We had a great new years eve (and I hope you did, too!). My husband and I had two very hot and sexy single friends over last night. We all ended up naked in the kitchen and fooling around...and that leads me to my question. I'll break it down like this: The good news is that I finally got some girl on girl action. It was awesome! I got to play with boobies, finger her and eat box! :) I thought the whole thing went swimmingly well until my husband told me The Bad News: my he had some P.I.V. action with the other girl, which happened on the staircase while going to get a toy. I was not there. It was minimal, in and out 2 times before they recovered their senses and stopped. We were all pretty tipsy, and we didn't discuss boundaries before our impromptu sexytime. That may make me a very irresponsible SIF listener, but be that as it is...I feel SO betrayed and hurt. Alan KNOWS my boundaries with PIV and also with this particular woman. We've spent 9 years rebuilding the trust he broke when he cheated on me before we were married. I also feel like he ruined a perfectly INCREDIBLE, hot sexy encounter with our two friends. As you know, I've never done that before, it was a huge and much anticipated experience for me, and I think it rocked except for my seriously hurt feelings and his whackadooooo bullshit PIV action. :( Anyway, I'm pretty confused and I'm trying to be cool about it. He knows how I feel.

Thanks for listening, any advice from you, Jade, or anyone else would be helpful and welcome.

ps--Salt on the wound: I surprised him and got an iud for xmas so we could be fluid bonded, and now I want him to get screened for STIs, because the PIV was not protected. I'm so bummed. What is the incubation period?

pps--It's nice to hear you dropping the F-bomb again :)

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